This week we talk about letting go. How do we let go of emotions from genuine trauma to those feelings of guilt, embarrassment or other emotions relating to past actions and behaviours?
Sports psychologist Lou Jones and I discuss how fighting with emotions just makes them worse. How it doesn't feel natural to just leave things because we're taught to 'fix things' in the outside world all of the time, but it's not the best way to deal with emotions. We will always have emotions, because it's part of being human and that's how we work so it's a life long journey to learn how we can manage those in our world in order to achieve the things we want to. We're not always going to get it right - it's about learning as we go and constantly noticing that we're on this journey.
Lou says 'I really enjoy learning about myself, it helps me to have a more satisfying life.' I do too but it's taken a long time, even as a psychologist, to realise that's what I needed to do. How about you?
To learn more about 'being you' sign up to the Defining You digital course which comes out in May with the release of the 2nd edition of the book. To add your name to the wait list please contact lorna.walls@aroka.co.uk
Here are some things that people who went on the pilot said:
"The Defining You course made me think about past experiences (childhood, university and early career) in a new, more profound way. It has made me reconsider scenarios from my past and has helped me see them for what they were and how they shaped my future even into my life today. For me, it has been genuinely revelatory and I really didn't want the course to end. I am still a work in progress but feel better equipped to look at the past, present and future."
“A brilliant and thought-provoking course and a great introduction to personal reflection and development. The group coaching sessions were welcoming, non-invasive and entirely inspirational. From a practical point of view, the learning format worked perfectly for me. The book is great for reference and the online material is broken down into really digestible and engaging videos and exercises. At no point did I feel under pressure to have completed the exercises or watch the material! It really was a case of “go at your own pace and have fun with it”. If you’re at a point in your life where you want to understand “how did I get here? And where do I go next?” I really recommend this programme.”
"It pushed me out of comfort zone and I started to feel more confident in fully participating towards the end. It has been a cathartic process because I started not to worry about what everyone else was thinking, and more about myself – not something that has ever come naturally to me. For the first time in 59 years I think I have become far more self aware and accepting of myself but also very encouraged there is still time for development!"